How to live a normal life?

"Forget it, that someone something you have to. Once you forget - you will live a normal life. " These are the right words?


- The statement that you quoted, should, as I see it, be considered on two levels: at the level of human relations and human relations level with the Creator of the world. We try to understand in each case individually.


Relationship between people


Often, unfortunately, it happens that a person consciously or unconsciously believes that all it should be. And not only his family, but also friends and acquaintances or even friends of friends, and even in Israel (especially among the guests of the former Soviet Union) and the state, and not only. As a rule, such a position, lining up on household minutiae, and goes to address the serious problems of life. Since, for example, with the fact that people do not consider it necessary to remove and wash their dishes or, say, to clean their own clothes, participate in cleaning the house, and so on. D. (What if someone in the home can do it for it?), and ending as if a natural expectation that someone will arrange it, say, to study or to find best position for him.

And such a person lives in expectation of other small and large financial services and psychological nature. And do not even happy when he provides services and does not feel a sense of gratitude (for sure he should). Such people often do not realize is that their persistent insistence, entrenched inside of them, they are manipulated by people, causing them harm, including depriving them of the time and effort that they could spend more for the benefit of themselves and others .

But the tremendous harm that person causes themselves. Hoping for the other, it becomes a helpless patient who is not able to act independently, make decisions and implement them. Life circumstances in which it is largely dependent on whether someone with him to nurse or not ...


The relationship with the Creator of the world


Those who try to live by the laws of our tradition and is familiar with the basics of our world, know that our destiny governs the Almighty that He places us in certain situations in life and in the days of the Court (Rosh Hashanah) determines what will happen to each of us over the next year, including the amount of revenue that will receive the person. And we are in all his ways, and hopefully we trust in Him. However, this does not in the slightest degree means that, hoping for the Creator, a person can afford to sit back and wait for the good things of life will fall on him from heaven.

Each of us in the construction of his own life and destiny, so to speak, "co-author" of the Most High. Everyone has to work hard, trying to make the most of their potential, their abilities and opportunities that are given to us from above. And in the world of work (consistent with the laws of the Torah), and in the field of spirituality, constantly improving his spiritual level.

The fact that we put our trust in the Almighty, does not mean that we can have any claim to it (say, did not help in that and that something, something nedodal and t. N.). This attitude reveals a complete misunderstanding of the structure of the world, the fact, in particular, that God always and everywhere is absolutely just. And, of course, is the manifestation of ingratitude for all that He gives you. People often forget that it is the Almighty constantly pumps up to each of us is necessary for the life energy to provide virtually every man his breath and exhale. And in our tradition we passed thanks to the Creator for each day that He gives us.


Rav Eliyahu Eliyahu Essas